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Kids like ALL kinds of toys. They enjoy playing toys in the beginning, heck, all throughout their childhood. Some even don’t outgrown their fondness of toys. But not all toys are the same. Some can be educational and fun while others are downright hazardous. It is the responsibility of the parents to ensure that the toys are safe for your children.

And so, here are some guidelines to choose the right toys for your child:

1. Choose toys that are related to your child’s hobbies and interests. If she likes playing dolls, then you should buy a miniature cooking set of toy pots, pans, stoves, etc.

2. Buy toys that suit your child’s stage of development. You may want to buy your kid the latest Barbie doll but she’s still a year old, then opt for colorful mobiles instead. In the same manner, don’t buy Guitar Hero for prep-age kids who hardly knows how to turn them on.

3. Settle for safe and child-friendly toys. Avoid buying metallic toys for small kids, or those playthings that have rough pointed edges that could potentially hurt them. The toys should be smooth and preferably non-abrasive.

4. Choose well-built toys. Let’s face it. Some toys are not sturdy enough and durable are expected. These toys break easily and could pose health hazards for your kids. When choosing toys, choose those that are solidly built and could give your kids countless weeks of enjoyment. But hey, even the sturdiest of toys can break in a day if they are with strong hands.

5. Opt for the not-so expensive ones. My point here, there is a strong possibility that they will just break into pieces even before you have cooked dinner which by you spent less than the toy you bought for your kid.

These are just some ways and I know being a parent brings out the creative juices in a person. Picking up toys for them may seem a trivial matter, but then, it is still essential for the development of a child.

Ever notice how men stand when they’re talking to each other? Sort of side by side -shoulder to shoulder.  And women?, they just usually face each other.

My goal here is to draw attention to the differing patterns of men and women ( not that they aren’t few), especially in the workplace.  It’s not that one is right and the other is wrong.  If we don’t understand each other, however, we’re more prone to taking things the wrong way.

And even if women are holding more important positions in the workplace, men are still on the dominating side, even just in small but glaring ways, and here are a few of these signs as studied by Pat Heim, an author and management consultant in California.

1.  In business meetings, men tend to talk longer than women with their focus on selling ideas. By contrast, women tend to worry about keeping their comments brief so everyone gets time to talk.  This attitude ends up them getting less attention.

2.  Men are more likely to speak in declamatory terms, saying things such as ” this needs to be done.” Women are more likely to allow room for their ideas to be challenged. For example, women often hedge, by framing an idea in a question, or by qualifying what they say with words such as maybe, possibly, or hopefully.  Men, in turn, may construe this as wishy-washy, when in reality, a woman may just be simple trying to build consensus.

3.  Men are more likely enter a meeting having already lined up support for what they want to do. The real meeting may have taken place in the hallways, over lunch or on the golf course.  If women don’t understand this, they may enter a meeting expecting a meaningful exchange, when in reality, the issues have been decided.

What we need to do is to be more assertive, more direct, and less apologetic.  We blame ourselves too much for things that go wrong.  We should also be more willing - as men often are -  to come across as knowing the answer, even when they’re not a hundred percent sure.

This is just a funny joke I heard the other day. But this might be true for all we know.

A psychotherapist was having a roaring business since he started from scratch, so much so that he could now afford have a big clinic to accommodate his numerous patients. So he asked a kid to make a signboard for him and put it above his clinic entrance.

But, instead of his business building up, it began to slacken. He especially noticed ladies shying away from his clinic after reading the signboard. So, one day, he decided to check it out himself. Then he understood why!

The boy he asked to make the signboard used a small wooden board so he had to split the word in three:

Psycho-

the-

rapist.

The question:  Why are some most adults mean to children?

We all know that adults need to be consistent, always listening, reasonable, and encouraging when it comes to dealing with children.  But the problem is, we have not been taught to defuse our anger.  As a result, most adults carry around unresolved anger.  Think of lava. Something irritating happens and the volcano goes off!

But this is not enough reason to vent our unresolved emotions to the poor, innocent children.  In reality, they become our shock absorbers and we thought they’ll just forget about it once we let them watch tv or play all dong long, but this is not the case, they end up saving all those hidden fears and become angry adults when they reach their older years, and so this cycle will just be inherited and we all become angry people who just go around feeling bad.

So, before inflicting anger on the kids,  see if you belong on the category of those who dump their negative emotions to the children.

1.  Spanks with every little annoying thing. One reason why it not appropriate to spank children is because parents who hold unto unresolved anger can become so explosive are likely to harm a child.

2.  Says negative words almost all the time. A small child is like unmolded clay.  Every word, each action, makes an impression on the clay.  When a child grows up with more negative than positive imprints, the child’s self-esteem is at risk.

3.  Bombards kids with relentless unkindness. As there are many stories of parents separating, the children are the number ones victims of this separations.  The parents become more distant not only from society but more so from their children because they don’t know how to go on. The children, in some cases, become the parents to their parents.

4.  Saying hurtful things to them about the other parent. The child’s heart will be divided over this bad-mouthing over each other. A child needs to have room to love each parent.

5.  Picks on the child about weight, aptitude in school, clothes, friends, habits or anything else in their life. Criticism kills and children thrive on encouragement.  While it is essential to stop a child from doing something wrong, it is not necessary to drown the child in anger to prove your point.

One effect of storing anger is rage.  And venting to children will result in them storing rage as well.  Every child does not need anger but rather needs love, nurturing, guidance, and encouragement. Children must not be the dumping ground for adult’s unresolved frustration and anger.

It is alarming to hear that the age range of girls getting pregnant are becoming younger.  This week, the nation was shocked to hear the news of more than a dozen of high school girls in Gloucester who became pregnant almost all at the same time.  The principal allegedly told that this was a result of a pregnancy pact and one of the fathers of the unborn babies was a homeless man.  Isn’t this startling or what?

It’s like these kids think that pregnancy is the new cool thing right now.  One cannot help that this was influenced by some of teen celebrity pregnancies.  There was almost always an update on Jamie Lynn Spears trip the hospital for a checkup or what she put in the baby registry.  It is so sad that it seems that early pregnancy is if not totally condoned but actually highlighted in such a way that it is ok to get pregnant even if you’re just in your teens because you can just pass your GEDs.

The values are becoming less emphasized and we are now on a state that people have no boundaries at all.  Just so sad.

People presume that women feel sexual fulfillment and happiness when they get married. Nothing is farther than the truth. Majority of women hardly experience sexual bliss. Offices of marriage counselors are swamped with sexually dissatisfied women. They go through their married life without feeling orgasm as the nature intended it.

So, here are a few tricks that doesn’t involve sexual positions:

1.  Have a healthy body

Sexually satisfied women understand that a healthy body forms the foundation of a rewarding life. Being in good health protects them from the ill-effects of various sexual dysfunctions. They practice regimen of proper hygiene, eat healthy food, and undergo regular medical checkup.

2.   Give time for sex

Being busy at home in the corporal world kills sexual desire.  Sexually satisfied women give more time for sex.  Agree to have time alone with each other.  Go on a date - see a romantic movie, have dinner  afterwards, and go home, and well, you’ll know what will happen next.

3.  Do it in various places

What’s wrong with doing it in the bedroom?  Nothing, actually, except that you’ll soon experience waning libido and boredom.  Sexually satisfied women love having sex in every corner of the house.

4.  Use encouraging love talk

More than just feedback, saying encouraging words of love having sex boosts libido and the orgasm.

5.  Try new positions

Sexually satisfied women do not just content themselves with the standard position- man on top, woman beneath.  Why not be the one on lead?

6.  Give gentle directions

Sexually satisfied women have explored their erogenous zones so they can give gentle directions and coaching to their mates during the lovemaking process.

7.  Deal with obstacles to good sex

Worries, anxieties, resentments, anger - all these are passion binders that deaden your desire for sex.  So deal with these baggages. Get to the root of your problems - what’s making you worried, anxious,resentful or angry at your husband, or yourself or your situation.

If something’s bugging you so much you’re losing the desire to make love with your husband,decide now to face these obstacles and deal with them.  Maybe they will not go away immediately - as many problems never do, but decide which to set aside for a while. Relax, live life, make love.

I thought I can trust people to do their part.  But it turned out that those you thought were the non-trustworthy people are the ones who are up for doing the job.  It was very surprising and disappointing at the same time.  First impressions and promises are out of things to count on now.